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4 Posts and 3 Themes later…

4 Posts and 3 Themes later…

I know, I know there has barely been anyone reading this and I seem to spending more time trying new themes on the blog rather than writing in it. But think of it as buying clothes for a party that you *may* have to go to! 😉 Work has been crazy for both Dodo and me. I am burning through the hours in office only to come back home and get back online. Dodo on the other hand is racking up Airmiles and Avis points by doing the Consultant thing.

A year ago, when we moved to DC the idea of him being away for 4 days a week scared me silly! Those were the times of utter loneliness, homesickness, and frankly of, totally lost as to why did I move all the way across the world if I couldn’t even stay in the same city with my husband. What I did not account for is my brain’s Pavlovian response to having a partner in front of me night and day – 24 X 7. Long story short, my brain rejected it! Five years of long distance relationship and selectively reaching out to each other seemed to have trained us to need much more space than 900 sq ft apartments and no friends or social circle to speak of, forced on us.

A year down the line and specifically since we moved to our new apartment, things have definitely changed. The idea of being by myself for half the week is quite welcome. Sure, I miss him but I know he’ll be here in two days, more eager to see me than ever :). Also with the move, we have also picked up on people we can hang out with,  without feeling the need to detox afterwards. So now the weekends too are fairly busy with dinners, travel, and general hanging out.

That it has been difficult to find people to hang out with will be the understatement of this century. And worse has been the realization that may be the golden years of making friends and being able to find more like-minded people are well past us. But that I believe is the standard story of every expatriate in every country. I envy those who walk into rooms and ease themselves into conversations ranging from the mundane as the weather to engaging as their own weddings with the locals. And while I have been able to make good friendships with a few people from office, I crave the informality of being able to talk of back home with other Desis about food, colleges, cities we love so much!

Cliched as it is, I guess, Phir bhi dil hai hindustani!


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Music that makes me smile

I am sure everyone has one happy song or a piece of music that takes you to a happy place or right back to an unforgettable time, right? I think I have a few that always put me in a better mood and get me reminiscing.

  1. The Office Theme Song

I started watching The Office in February 2010 when it had already run over 5 seasons here in US. What’s so special? Well, I was visiting DC on an official visit/vacation that February of the famous DC Snowmegaddon and while it was a new city et al, I was meeting Dodo (my then boyfriend – now husband) after 8 months and it was too cold for us to be really adventurous outside. So, post-office, we’d grab dinner and come back and watch the show and I’d doze off to this music catching up on my jet-lag. A week later, we moved to Charlotte for the vacation part of my trip and I spent two weeks catching up from Season 1-5 while Dodo and his friends went to their actual office! I associate this music to my first trip outside the country, first time staying alone with Dodo and deciding – I can marry this guy and move to US! For the next year and half as we figured out our way to make things work, this music wa

2.  Friends Theme Song

Dodo introduced me to Friends but me and my roommates spent hours and hours on LAN watching all the 10 seasons over and over and over again till we could quote their dialogues to real life situations. I can solely credit Friends and their characters for keeping my long distance relationship alive for 5 years. 🙂 Dodo and I fought and he was terrible at making up afterwards,but  I could always depend on him picking up a random Friends episode and crack me up over the phone. Then, after college, it helped me bond with my sister-in-law who was my room mate in Hyderabad as she and I along with her brother spent hours during lazy summer weekends watching the same re-runs again.  And it still does not get old!

3. Pehla Nasha

This is the song of me as an 18 year old smitten for the first time ever in college with a TDH (tall, dark and handsome!) if there was ever one. I spent agonizing hours during my first year trying to make sense of his flirting and seeing more into it than he meant. The icing on the cake came just a month before the end of my first year and his college final year when he dedicated this song to me in front of the entire college during our cultural festival and asked me for a dance! Then he, all of 6’2″, walked half way across the field where I stood with all my friends, seniors and practically everyone who I knew in college and danced with me for the entire song. I don’t remember landing on the ground the entire night. And now, every time I hear this song playing, I swear I float – just a little, with a smile on my face :).

4. Tu hi meri shab hai and Tonight are two songs that I associate with some really romantic moments with Dodo over the last few years. 😉  I remember him introducing me to Vodka with Limca for the first time while Tu hi meri shab hai played – ‘nuf said!

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Posted by on August 8, 2012 in Experiences, Music, Nostalgia


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